What Every Mother Wants to Say (My Second Year Blogging)

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When I started my blog two years ago, I was convinced that I would be the mouthpiece for all mothers – those who work and stay-at-home alike.

Wrong. Dead wrong.

As it turns out, my “you don’t fit neatly into any category” identity followed me into parenthood as well.

So I pondered what to do and where to reach out. For years, I had received praise for my writing, but I never took that leap that makes great writers, well, writers. I kept a private journal, but I was convinced that everyone did that. No one needed to read my words.

But pregnancy and endless career shuffling (as a result of small children) changed the game. Suddenly, social circles became too transient to grasp and it seemed that I would forever bounce between my job and my kids.

Frankly, I knew if I didn’t do something – and soon – I would lose myself entirely.

The first six months of my blog were purely experimental. Would I have enough ideas to write? Would I attract a stalker? Would anyone actually read my writing? I figured out how often to post and carved a niche.

The second half of my first year brought drama, as friends, family, and Facebook subscribed. Some say it is healthy to have people that you know in real life read your work – to maintain balance and ensure consistency. Truthfully, this type of “support” fuels emotions that can alter (and hinder) the creative nature of your writing. But even in the midst of my first taste of blogging rejection, two posts went viral.

And I kept writing.

Growing pains characterized my second year of blogging, but they have forced me to rethink my purpose and how I will protect myself from the inevitable doubters. After all, if these people exist in all spaces at all times, why would my blog be the exception?

In moving forward, I confess that I am not a mother or teacher who has all the answers. My life is messy, but I embrace how every challenge refines. I blog to keep my skills active and my dreams (i.e. sanity) afloat.

And, perhaps most importantly, to speak what every mother wants to say:

I’m still here.

::today’s daily inspiration::

One Year Ago: To Grow, Write

 

37 thoughts on “What Every Mother Wants to Say (My Second Year Blogging)

    1. Absolutely. For as cathartic as blogging can feel, some posts are easier (and more well received) than others and it isn’t always easy to keep blogging. Know that you aren’t alone with the excuses…or in your belief in your writing 🙂 Truly, goodness will come from this practice!

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  1. funny – about the friends/family. I had another very successful blog a few years back, that my friends and family read. I had to be just as careful with my thoughts and be PC just like Facebook. People would easily become offended even when the subject had nothing to do with them personally.

    So, something came up with my son (a learning disability) and when it struck me to do so, I wanted to be able to blog about the frustrations and say whatever I wanted…but my son is getting older – the people we were friends/facebook friends with had kids going to same school, etc. Would see it. I didn’t want him to be teased, etc.

    So I started a new blog with a different e-mail address so no one could connect me to the other. I haven’t provided my new link to friends/family – thus, I can write about whatever is affecting me good or bad, I can vent (if ever needed) without worrying about consequences, primarily with family. If I want to give details about my son’s issue, i can.

    It’s been therapeutic. I love my blogging community – I just keep them separate from friends/family now.

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    1. Your story is incredibly fascinating. Thank you for sharing. The personal life messiness, well, I just wasn’t expecting it. I’m glad that you have been able to find success and release in your new blog as well. Not going to lie – I’m really excited to follow your writing 🙂 As you communicate here, sometimes you just have to learn the lesson and move on. Happy writing!

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      1. If it’s “private” – we can share with anonymous souls, without censoring ourselves for fear of hurting or creating issues with those we see in our daily lives. Someone will always read more into something and think it applies to them – and then BOOM explosion.

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      2. I been wanting to ask you about blogging anonymously. If you use Facebook at all? Cuz I can’t figure out how to use it and not have friends/family connect with my blog when I don’t want them too since it’s facebook uses ur phone number?

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      3. Oh, yes! I live off Facebook that’s how I communicate with family and friends.

        What I did was, I created a brand new e-mail account (one that no one had) that was different from facebook and the old wordpress account. I then created a brand new wordpress account with a separate login – as if I were a completely different person

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      4. if I wanted to link to Facebook I could…but I don’t want my new blog linked to that.

        I suppose you could create an entirely new e-mail that utilizes the new blog, and a new facebook account only. If you want facebook that isn’t linked to friends/family?

        I don’t recall having to use a phone number, but if required for new facebook account, I suppose you could enter a “bad” number? I don’t have my phone number linked, I don’t think?

        I don’t understand your purpose of what you’re trying to accomplish. My new blog, I just don’t link.

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  2. This is very interesting – I loved my first six months of blogging as barely anyone found me and it was fantastic for writing practice. I decided from the outset that I wouldn’t share with my real life friends (just to give me the freedom to write about what I want) and even the few who have inadvertently been told about it never visit anyway – Funny how we think everyone is waiting with baited breath for our next opus whereas in reality they are all busy with their own lives.

    During my second six months of blogging I found myself part of a little group who exchanged comments, which was just perfect – Easy to find like-minded people on the blogosphere it seems. Now that I’m into the second year of blogging I find I am having to take a break from it as these blogging buddies have become very dear to me and I end up spending far too much of my day in this fine place – A dilemma indeed. It seems blogging can become a bit of an addiction and I am currently afflicted!

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    1. There is something exhilarating about writing with anonymity, isn’t there? Thank you for sharing your experience. I am always amazed at how different every blogging journey is. I completely get your dilemma – free time invested in reality or blogging world? Truly, I think it depends on your season of life. Personally, I have found that if I write too many posts in a week (even if I have important-to-me things to say) my overall message is not as clear or sound as I would like. That helps me to hit the brakes. I notice a similar negative influence on my writing when I’m not connecting to other bloggers. I’m so glad you’ve stuck it out so far! You’ll find your way 🙂

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      1. Thanks for this reply – Yes virtual world or real world dilemma. The cold turkey thing I had planned for this month is working in as much as I am not writing new posts myself but can’t help dipping in to read those by others – Going “off piste” like this has been therapeutic as realise my issues as the same as many others out there. Looking forward to reading more from you.

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  3. Great read and comments. I recently read an article on a Runner magazine called Running Thief. She is a mother of three and whenever she gets time she goes for running and come fresh so that Days does not run her…she runs the day with her growing kids in a beautiful way. When she gets little time she reads and writes. Everyone in her family is happy unlike in past she used to vent out at home which had made the home a house!

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  4. Jen Statham

    Really enjoyed this read. I just started blogging and am doing it anonymously due to religious reasons. I’m so glad I found others that do the same in these comments! I thought I was an odd duck. It feels good to just write how I feel and my life experiences without being judged by my real life friends and family.

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    1. Isn’t writing the most freeing of feelings? Thank you for reading and sharing. Even though each of us chooses to blog for different reasons, I think we are all in search of meaningful connection through our words. Be encouraged and enjoy the journey! I look forward to following your writing 🙂

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  5. “I’m still here”- that’s it, exactly. That moment when I blink and remember something that I LIKE to do, something I didn’t have to do and that no one else wanted me to do- that moment that is so so SO hard to find in the mess of parenting! Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  6. Lauren! I am 6 months in, hide my identity and don’t share with many people I know. I admire you for putting yourself out there and I hope I can say I find similar success in another 6 months! It’s been slow!

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    1. I think remaining anonymous and sharing your identity both take courage in writing! I realize that what works for me may not work for others, but I felt compelled to share my story because the lessons have hurt…and healed. I love reading your work and am just waiting for your first viral post. When you reach it, I promise, the numbers won’t matter anymore 🙂 Keep sharing your story with the world!

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  7. Hi Lauren, I like your Blog. keep writing and sharing and do not worry about people’s reactions or responses. When you follow your heart, you are always in the mid way of being accepted by some and rejected by some. there will always be people who admire your truth and hate your guts. Others’ doubts do not matter as long as you agree with yourself.

    Keep writting.
    Cheers!

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    1. Thank you for the encouraging words! I think we all need to be reminded from time to time that our unique lens challenges others in healthy ways, even when inevitable negative words respond. Blogging is a really neat experiment in exploring the human heart, especially my own. Thank you for sharing and reading 🙂

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